As I stated last week, I was one of the speakers at the 'Maximum Man' conference our church held this past weekend. My topic was on 'Leading Courageously'. So I explored a variety of issues related to leadership and courage.
The most interesting thing that came out of that for me (and when you speak/teach, YOU are the primary one to benefit or be taught) was this idea that - as Robert Louis put it in Mens Fraternity - our #1 obstacle to courageous leadership is......our feelings!?
Now, you may not have expected that to come out at a 'mens' conference, unless it was some kind of new-age, sensitive man conference - WHICH IT WAS NOT! I would think, as far as emotions go, that anger would be the number 1 enemy for men, or maybe apathy. But the more I think about it, the more I agree.
When we run into conflict while trying to lead in the home, what happens? Our wife doesn't agree, our kids don't follow instructions, and we...get our feelings hurt. NO I DON'T, I GET MAD! Right, but why? What's the deeper issue? Your opinion doesn't carry weight? It doesn't count? Nobody cares what you think anyway? Nobody agrees with you? Nobody 'cares' about you? There's something else going on that triggers our reaction, and it's internal to us. Do outside forces impact us? Absolutely. Do they dictate our response? Probably, but they shouldn't. Are you a victim? Do you have a victim mentality? Then you've given up. You're not doing what 3 other speakers talked about at the conference. Reject passivity, Accept Responsibility, and Expect a greater reward, both now and in eternity.
Again, as Louis stated so well, we have turn our faces into the full gale force of our emotions and say "NO", I'm not giving in to you. And we keep doing the right thing, whatever that is. That's practicing mature manhood.
Do you think this applies to work as well?